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34 year old woman in NYC— I have a really “full” life— a lot of friends, and an excellent job/ career. I really want a partner so I can have a family. But I’m tired of dating and I’m bored of NYC. I feel pretty rundown and empty, like I’m living a life I’ve outgrown. I’ve been here 12 years and am considering a move. I went through a Big Heartbreak in December, though, and want to ensure I am not being rash, even though I feel kind of okay about it now (it had to happen).

I spend a lot of time at dinners or events (sports games, movies, birthday parties). I have no one to come home to or process my day with. It feels like I’m on a merry go round of catch ups, and It seems like I’m watching everyone move on without me. I’m starting to feel like I’m risking the life I want staying on the merry go round.

I’ve been really enjoying visiting home in S. Florida. The idea of having a car and living close to my parents and sister (and her kids) is really appealing to me. I like the idea of more space and a sense of calm. I also love DC, which feels like a lower key city.

My question is this— for those of you that left NYC, what questions did you ask yourself? I want to ensure I’m running to something, not away. In NYC, I just joined a pickleball league and signed up for some volunteer opportunities. Any other suggestions on how to enrich an existing life as an alternative to a move?

Please be kind in comments!