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I’m having issues with my landlord regarding heat, our childcare, and cameras. We moved in when I was pregnant in August and have a year lease. I got into a fight with her today about the consistent heat issue (and her purposely turning it down unnecessarily which reach dangerous temps for infant). Here are the issues below. Am I in the wrong?

Issue at hand today: temperature is constantly going way below legal limit even though we’ve brought it up several times and she’s claimed she set it higher but didn’t. Instead of turning it up so that the UNIT reaches legal limit (not just what she sets on the thermostat), she made us spend hundreds in DIY methods. Claims we are the “only ones complaining” in building and that the first floor is currently 70 degrees (I said “cool, that’s not our unit”). She keeps turning the heat on and off manually to save money and says now to text her when it gets too cold (literally even at 5am) so she can turn it back on. She doesn’t seem to get that setting it to 62 degrees makes it freezing in the apartment when it’s cold outside. We have a newborn and this is dangerous. I hate space heaters as they’re a fire hazard but we have no choice but to use them. It reached 57 today. Trying to charge extra in rent for having family help out with childcare. There are protections for people having overnight guests/family so long as they don’t stay longer than 30 consecutive days. We moved in in August when I was pregnant. We’ve since had family over 2x weekly to help out at night, as I had a c-section and had cellulitis and am extremely sleep deprived. They live 2.5 hours away and don’t drive so they can’t just come during the day. Well, she said that we need to pay extra in rent and that in the lease it’s “$15 per night for overnight guests”. We checked, this is untrue—it’s not in the lease and it’s illegal. It’s also just cruel. We can’t put her in daycare until she’s over 6 months per the daycare we are going with (free at my job). Also, I know several people with 9-5 nannies and/or night nurses. We pay every thing but the heat. Said she wouldn’t have rented to us if she knew we’d be having family helping out. We are speaking to a lawyer. Cameras. Surveilling who goes in and out, claiming false “damages” to the door because of laundry carts (untrue it never even touched the door), recycling nit-picking (“don’t put cat litter in plastic bag because I don’t want other tenants to ask to get cats” which is just so creepy to spy that way), etc. — I don’t feel we live in a peaceful environment as I always feel like we are being watched in public hallway or outside. This is her childhood home and she’s insane about every little thing.

Am I overreacting for confronting her and getting into a fight with her about 57 degrees? I told her we have proof and reason to complain as it’s illegal and she said that I was threatening her by saying it was illegal which is untrue. Claimed we didn’t have the DIY methods that we bought and set up. Called us out for being “complainers”.

Am I overreacting?